Affirmation

The One thing you will never see spew from this keyboard ever again is the term Savage Garden. But this band, who is loved by the oldest of my dearest, has a song by this name which reeks of positive vibes. But as all else in life, we have an amazing ability to seek this notion of affirmation, or reaffirmation (if we try to be real positive) through the actions of others.

This is very disturbing when we are in the process of ending relationships. It is a basic human desire to know that you are ok. Hell, there are books even titled in a manner that makes this a holy crusade. But in the end, this is another self destructive path because our self worth is left in the fickle mind and hands of another. Why we empower people who have had a tenuous or even non-existent impact in our life and thrust them into this position is a question we each much answer in ourselves. What is it in our atomic make-up that makes us decide others perceptions are more worthy than our own?

From the time we emerge, we are dependant on others for our survival on an infinite number of levels. We then rely on these around us to then wean us away so we may stand alone. Standing alone in a world that we perceive as cruel and not to be trusted is a daunting task...if you allow this in your mind.

But what happens if a decision is made to view the world in a different manner? What happens to us as people when we develop the ability to view our place in the universe through a positive lens? Will we have the urge to run to another when we end any kind of relationship? The word affirmation, in itself, depends on an outsider saying what is, is true, it is a positive statement or judgment. What if we knew our decisions and thoughts were, in themselves true, would there be a need to ever be affirmed.


It should be obvious that by now the caffeine has hit and the thoughts are rambling, but we as individuals can answer any of these questions to the satisfaction of ourselves...

Se Sez