He Loves you, Right, Right, Right...

Glad I wasn't penning the Fab Four's lyrics or they would still be stuck in Liverpool waiting for the resurgence of punk. However, as people enter into relationships with the perennial "user loser", the last thing they need is the I told you so's from their friends. Being the other woman is never an easy thing and the "he is breaking up with her" line is so predictable that even Hollywood land over uses it as a transitional filler.

So, what is it about us that makes us hang on to toxic relationships. We have friends who are the other woman, love the addict who won't give up the pipe, alcoholic who chooses the company of semi-homeless on the next bar stool over you, the person who is too busy to call, the let's get together tomorrow promise breaker, or people who have a general disregard for the feeling, s thoughts and wants of another. Honesty in relationships is cherished and a virtue, but the first person we really need to be up front with is ourselves. We have a basic understanding, at an almost subconscious level, if we are getting ready to tread on quicksand. In all my life it was not until last year that I actually listened to what my soul was yelling. It is not that I did not hear it, but more like I was not worthy of the door of happiness it was trying to open.

When you are in a particular setting and aware of all going on, and your first instinctive thought upon seeing a hot attractive individual is negative. Go with the heart's flow, because it is what will hurt in the long run. We all slip and fall back into bad habits and comfortable ways, but when our friends are trying to protect, unless they are all psychotic,(Sax hint: surrounded by certifiably crazy friends with a DSM-IV diagnosis is not a good thang),listen to them.

We all know what is best, but everyone puts on the blinders and has a myopic outlook on life we think he/she loves me. The ass is not worth you pain and suffering. They hurt you at your most vulnerable, make you feel that you are not attractive and dangle that yarn of hope whenever they can So, when we are in times of trouble, draw up the friend circle, learn to love yourself,and cut yourself some slack. There is so much out there...

So Sez Sax.....