Take the Hint Dude

Once in a great while, like never before, comes a person out of the blue that completely blows you away. They are smart, creative, funny, hard working, sexy, gorgeous and talented. You love to watch them walk, the way they smile is electrifying and as you watch them exist they are sexually exciting. No, I am not talking about dropping $40,000 grand for a "date" or $4.00 on a cheap hooker. I am talking about someone who has got "it." You hit it it off, talk, and by the end of the evening find that animal magnetism where you are sucking face like Armageddon is raining outside. To top it off, all this passion is being generated in one of the best eating joints on the planet.


Was this just a dream? As the song goes, life is just like that elevator, it takes you up and brings you down. Well, for one of my friends, reality smacked him upside da head. Sometimes distance and the changing nature of a person extinguishes what flame was burning inside.

Some guys seem to have the luck of being the first great guy a woman meets after getting out of a bad relationship.(Sax advice to men: one of the first questions of Ms. Perfect is how long she is out of her last serious relationship or marriage. If the answer is less than six months and you are the first decent man she has met, it is decision time. If your plans are to just use her, you are a piece of shit and karma will catch up in the form of a new, drug resistant form of std, that will simultaneously appear on your lips, eyelids and penis. If she is clear that all she wants is sex, take her at her word, don't fall in love and drop the hammer. However, if your soul is telling you she is amazing, watch the out, traditionally, first man out of the chute is dumped once she determines that this is all going too fast, and wants to process or find herself.) If this person starts dropping hints, do not ignore them. Appreciate what you had and move on. Delete their number because you do not have it memorized anyway, file away the photos and enjoy life!!

Soooo, ladies, when you do meet this guy and realize that you do need the room to grow and process, tell him straight up. It is hard to let go of a decent guy, but keeping him on the line is not fair to either one of you. It seems that both men and women have the incredible propensity to crave the unreachable while taking for granted that which is before them. (Don't mean to get religious, but does that damn apple fable in the garden of Eden ring a bell). If your feelings are not there, just let him know. Many times when people have been close and then one slams on the brakes with both feet, there is great angst and turmoil. One of the parties feels they did or said something that changed things, feels that the person has found someone better, and take it all upon themselves. They do not feel quite as attractive as they did before, although in reality, they have not changed. Well, as I told my friend, any woman would be lucky to be with him.

As time and people pass, once in a while, someone recognizes that they have lost someone who was right. This whole theory of let's be friends after we have had sex is possible, so long as serious feelings did not develop by either of the parties. But sometimes we let people go because we are just not ready for them. Timing is the key and sometimes the stars aren't all perfectly lined up. But there is always the thought that one day, a love that could have been rekindled and the universe is ready for those two souls to meet. One cannot pin all hopes dreams on this and certainly shouldn't make decisions on this occurring. When you live your life to the fullest and how it was meant to be lived, then those who were meant to be will be attracted to you. Only when have reached that point and are truly happy, will you "stumble" on to that person who deserves you like you deserve them.

When we say to someone why didn't I meet you last year, the answer is simple, neither one of you were ready. Had you met the year before, what you now had would not have worked. Your guides and angels knew that the journey was not at that juncture. Lessons had to learned, tears had to be cried, until finally reaching the point where you needed to be. Keep the faith and you will be rewarded with sharing your life with one who deserves to call you their partner, as much as they deserve the same from you,

So Sez Sax....